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the end, love
Both sides have got some of the facts wrong, here, particularly about how all the "militant hate" is on the other side. The real truth of the matter is this whole thing started because Jim Henson Productions, a company I have, personally, have had the highest respect for as an organization filled with good, positive, peace-loving people, dissolved the partnership they'd had with Chick-fil-a, a company I have, personally, loved the food of, and have respected its policy of not being open on Sunday-- it's nice to see a corporation that doesn't slave-drive their workers for more money. Anyway, they dissolved the partnership (which involved the current toys in the kids meals) over the Chick-fil-a's leaders' proud assertion that, yes, they support organizations that have actively gay-bashed-- not just "support the traditional family," but BASHED OTHER PEOPLE.

It's completely in Henson's rights to dissolve the partnership over a disagreement in philosophy, particularly when it involves money going in directions they don't want it to go, just as it's in Chick-fil-a's right to support whatever causes they want to support. It's also in the general public's right to express THEIR opinions of the causes, and that's what I see happening. But a few extremes on each side start twisting the facts or getting all nasty, and suddenly that's the only part each side sees of the other side. THIS HAPPENS ON EVERY ISSUE. I see it frequently when I'm on the computer-- it seems my Facebook feed leans more conservative, my Twitter feed more liberal. I watch you guys engage in these passionate CAUSES and think, gee, if all I was seeing was YOUR argument, I WOULD think the other side was Evil. But I don't, and now all I see is how deluded you are, and how sad it is that people will never learn to get along and make progress because each side refuses to truly LISTEN to what the other side is saying, preferring to see only the negative parts of that "side."

Please don't try to tell me that Yes, you totally agree that THE OTHER SIDE won't see the good in YOUR side. It IS both sides. Trust me.

But all that said, I want to express the view of the opposite of what this forward is trying to say. This may be shocking to you, my family members who love me and whom I love, but I am a strong supporter of Gay Rights. Not just tolerant, SUPPORTER. My best friend is married to a transgendered person. Their marriage is not recognized by the government, nor is it recognized by many traditional religious institutions, though it IS recognized by certain more liberal religious institutions. They believe in their marriage, and I believe in it, too. Another of my best friends is a gay man who's been in a long-term relationship though frankly I'm glad they're not married because the other guy is a total mess BUT THAT'S NOT THE POINT; the point is, I want you to know that you are insulting me by insulting some of my dearest friends by implying that they're a danger to families.

Gay marriage is NOT a threat to traditional marriage. It's not even a freedom of religion issue (though I'll give you an argument there, too)-- the government should never be FORCED to make a religious institution marry anyone, but NO ONE IS TRYING TO DO THAT. We're fighting for the right for people living as a couple to be legally RECOGNIZED as a couple, with all the legal benefits thereof. That doesn't take anyone else's rights away!

You know what IS a threat to traditional marriage? People who marry for money or attention or status. People who marry and decide, well, if it doesn't work out, we'll just divorce! People who divorce at the slightest bump in the road. People who keep giving "traditional marriage" a bad name, causing young folks who WOULD marry to decide NOT to because obviously the people who "support" marriage are off their rockers. Why do we not fight against THESE?

LGBTQ couples who wish to marry DO support traditional marriage. BECAUSE THEY WANT TO MARRY. They're taking it much more seriously than those celebrities who get married to have the pictures splashed across the tabloids. Allowing them to marry DOESN'T HURT ANYONE, particularly not anybody else's marriage.

Let me just put this last little observation out there, regarding the irony I've always seen in this issue when I look at two of my own bridesmaids. Maggie, no offense, I'm going to use you as an example, and I'm JUST SAYING. My sister was married by a justice of the peace, NOT a religious leader. The only prayer was grace before dinner. It was a completely legal, not religious, marriage. But I know you, family members, did not protest this. You were all there, hugging, smiling, cheering, loving. Now, my aforementioned best friend, whose marriage remains unrecognized by the government because people don't think it's right from a RELIGIOUS standpoint? Her wedding was FULL of prayers, Bible readings, hymns and spiritual songs. HMMMM. That's all I'm going to say. HMMMM.

Thank you for listening to me, here. I want you to know that you are in your rights to support or not support whatever companies you want to, but please understand that the majority of people are NOT hate-filled militants, but people who care deeply about other people and truly believe that what THEY believe is right.



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Catarina Niza
Jul. 31st, 2012 07:55 pm (UTC)
*clap* *clap* *clap*

Although it saddens me that no matter how many thoughtful, tolerant messages by thoughtful, tolerant people are put out there, it won't actually be of any difference. Sometimes it seems people cling more to their biases than they'd cling to their offspring.

I call full-on revolution.
Jul. 31st, 2012 10:33 pm (UTC)
Thank you. And it also saddens me.

But I'd like to make clear that I doubt anyone in my extended family would EVER disown anyone they loved should they come out. There's never been any happenings to TEST this, but if there were? They're just all much too loving people to be cruel to anyone. It's just some of them are older and don't have any personal experience to counteract the stuff politicians feed them about "upholding the traditional family" and whatnot (sure, sounds GREAT when you put it THAT way...). If they DID have personal experience, I'm certain their opinions would change.
Jul. 31st, 2012 08:18 pm (UTC)
Nicely put.
Jul. 31st, 2012 10:34 pm (UTC)
Thank you!
Jul. 31st, 2012 08:34 pm (UTC)
How dare you be reasonable. ;)
Jul. 31st, 2012 10:35 pm (UTC)
Haha, if only reason was easier to accept!
Aug. 1st, 2012 05:57 pm (UTC)
way to go!
So well written and I completely agree Amy!!

**and I don't have an account so I don't know how to let you know it's me, your cousin Lindsay ;)
Aug. 1st, 2012 07:03 pm (UTC)
Re: way to go!
Thanks! And signing your name is a perfect way to let me know.
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